Wednesday, 11 September 2013

and what did you learn today ?

   Our stalling house sale moved forward a little yesterday and the signs are good for the moment. I'm waiting on a letter from the local planning office which should clear up the last remaining issue. I also cleared up a little issue of my own.
   Our buyers solicitors have asked a bundle of questions. Which is the norm. However if they don't like or understand an answer, they just ask it again. No request for further details or an explanation as to what they would like, just the same question again and again. Our solicitor tells them in very polite legalise, to get off their fat arses and find out for themselves (as it is on public record). So the situation has got bogged down. The solicitors aren't too worried. As they are getting paid and have other people to annoy but our buyers are getting frustrated thinking we are dragging this whole thing out. They are telling our agents that if everything isn't complete by such and such they are going to look at other properties. Our agents are then phoning the two parties we're buying from and informing them that maybe there's a problem and they may want to put their properties back on the market. So it's headless chicken time and for a while I joined in that dance too. Blaming everybody else and wanting to curl up in a ball and wait for the whole thing to sort it's self out.  As I have done in other situations before It didn't then and it wasn't now. So I got stuck in and smoothed things as best I could.
   Now here's where I learned a lesson. While I was smoothing things as best I could, it was always in my mind that this wasn't my mistake. The blame lay with others and I was being a really wonderful human being sorting all this out for them. I was wrong wasn't I! I'm trying to help sort things out because I have a vested interest in the outcome. Is anybody really at fault, no, they are doing what they think is right. Maybe they could do it better but that's their issue not mine. I needed to get my precious head out of my backside and help the situation along and if that involves carrying a bit extra for a few steps, so be it. Maybe in future I should first think how I can help and not who to blame.
   Now on to other business. I've been having a go at liking myself a little more recently. I'm at the don't really like that about me and should I tell me and risk maybe upsetting myself.  I'll keep you posted.
Onwards and upwards in pursuit of fulfilment and happiness :-) 


  1. I like myself just fine. I am finally over trying to get approval or to be like everyone else. I am not like everyone. I am special.
    So are you !

  2. Like you I don't need the approval of others, I would like my approval of me. It's something I'd never really thought about. It's the enemy within the camp.

  3. I don't like me in the slightest.
    I need everybody's approval.
    I am pathetic.

    Though you don't need my approval, I approve anyway. You're lovely, Spanner. :)

  4. I do understand how you feel. Can I ask you a question. Would you agree that you are wrong to think that way? and you're not pathetic at all. I have thirteen people (it says fourteen but ones a double) who regularly follow my blog and they all have a depth of personality and ability that is head and shoulders above those of the friends around me, truly and you were one of the first and showed your support very early on. to be able to do that you have to have a huge and deep inner strength. I think we all find it hard to access our own strength when we need it but it's there in abundance when others do. You're so not pathetic to me :-)