The one thing I haven't managed to get the better of is work. I'm self employed and have work. The more I do the more I'd earn etc etc but I always find reasons to leave for work late or change plans. With the end of my relationship with MissG it's the perfect time to sort this problem out once and for all.
Short post today but a very important topic for me to think through.
Onwards and upwards in the pursuit of happyness :-)
Med left these questions and I've added the answers.
Yes, very interesting. Why do you work for yourself?
I was fed up working for people who never took responsibility for what they did and I wanted to find out if I could survive on my wits and talents.
Do you enjoy what you do
I'm beginning to enjoy more of it than I used to and starting to pat myself on the back when the occasion demands it.
What bits of your job do you enjoy most?
Talking to the client about what they want and finishing
exploit the freedoms, or do you find yourself feeling pressured and guilty when you take time off or say no to work?
Not as much as I should. Guilt and Pressure are my constant workmates lol
Do you have an idea of how much you aim to earn each month or do you set out to earn as much as you can?
I have a target, seldom reached but it's getting better as I get better.
How do you think you are getting on with the whole work life balance thing?
It cost me my relationship with MissG because I wasn't approaching it correctly or professionally. I am now and have the time to build on it and use it to add security to my life. Once that's in place I think I can then do the work/life thing and find a happy relationship with someone.
I've got so so many questions for you! Hope to hear more from you on this subject. All the best fella, Med.
Thanks for the feedback Pres :-)
Yes, very interesting. Why do you work for yourself? Do you enjoy what you do? What bits of your job do you enjoy most? Do you take full advantage of being your own boss and expolit the freedoms, or do you find yourself feeling pressured and guilty when you take time off or say no to work? Do you have an idea of how much you aim to earn each month or do you set out to earn as much as you can? How do you think you are getting on with the whole work life balance thing? I've got so so many questions for you! Hope to hear more from you on this subject. All the best fella, Med.
ReplyDeleteWow! Do you mind if I offer a few reactionary thoughts? Something that stood out was that you said you have a target each month and that it is difficult to hit at the moment. I wondered what that would do to your morale and how it might factor into the feelings of guilt and pressure?
ReplyDeleteI know so many people who work for themselves who have trouble knowing when to stop, and when they do stop or take time off they give themselves a hard time. They usually say that you never know when the work is going to stop coming in... so they work really hard, and suprise suprise the work keeps coming.
It is good to hear you are getting better. Did you know that if you worked for somebody else they would probably phase your return to work, which means you'd start part time, reduced hours, picking up more as you get stronger. Mentally, it is the difference between waking up in the morning and saying 'It's ok i'm off today' and saying 'oh no, i can't do it today, i'm failing'. Either way we spend those days away from work, but only one option gives us the attitude to be kind to ourselves and pace our recovery.
The other thing I was wondering about was the bit in the middle. I picked up from what you said that it isn't your favourite part of the job... which is fine... but wondered what your thoughts are on this. Are you an 'in the moment kind of person' when you work or are you more of an 'eyes on the road ahead' kind? Have you tried both?
Hope you don't mind me and my questions Spanner. Onwards fella. Med