I'm up against a few things at the moment and finding it a little tough to deal with. I know I can overcome them, which is the important and main thing but a bit of support from those around me would be something I could well do with at the moment.
So often people punctuated praise with a "but." Do people not realise that it just cancels out all that went before! I've been thinking about this for a while. Primarily because I'm trying to find the right words of support for my daughters. They are both very different from each other. I don't see them as much as I'd like so with a little care and attention it's important I get things right.
All of that thinking has made me realise I'm feeling a bit low and in need of some support too, hence today's Whinging post :-)
I believe in me. It's been awhile since I did and along with finding that belief again came the knowledge that I need others to share that belief too and be there on the odd occasion I slip. For the moment "self belief" will have to suffice. In fact it may well be worth putting some thought into "self praise." There will always be times in the future when I'll need to just rely on me. So a good tried and tested system of self motivation would be a useful plus.
Onwards and upwards in the pursuit of happyness :-)
This is what the shrinks call self soothing. Did you ever pick up a copy of Paul Gilbert's 'Compassionate Mind'? He explains why it is important to be able to self sooth, how this relates to the way our brains work, and how we can get better at self soothing. Even those of us with all the support around us have to get better at this so we don't drive others away. Hope you'll have a look and keep an open mind, it's all very practical stuff.
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